January 27, 2011
What is FEAR? Is it really Forget Everything And Run, that innate fight or flight instinct within us? What really stimulates FEAR, even if it’s subtle or unconscious that basically freezes us into inaction? Enough with the questions, lets dive in!
FEAR in the respect which I am referring to it is simply False Evidence Appearing Real. Those times when we have absolutely no evidence that what we are paralyzed by actually exists anywhere but in our minds. Whether it’s based on the inability to commit to a business, job, or even a relationship fully because of a past experience which sets up a mental road block to redirect our path, sometimes without even consciously realizing it!
What stimulates FEAR? It could be just about anything. For instance, a person with a fear of heights could have their fear stimulated by the mere idea of leaving good old Terra Firma to climb 2 flights of open metal stairs. Conversely that fear could be totally under wraps until that person has their hands on the rail at the top ready to go over the edge to rappel to the ground, even though they’re completely safe and tied into a safety harness. The same can happen in a relationship, business opportunity, or by the wearing of certain clothes.
Well great.. something that can paralyze action without our even knowing it. What do you do to overcome FEAR?
The first big step to overcoming it is to have it positively identified. I have to be honest and say that while you may initially believe you’ve identified this fear quickly as you identify hold ups, most likely you’re going to be wrong. Thats not to say that you might not have a grasp of it quickly, but the likelihood is pretty low. Don’t let that be discouraging, usually whatever comes up initially is exactly where you need to start anyway and much good work at revealing this FEAR will come from the process of delving into and alleviating this FEAR. The good news is the more you dig at this mound of sand and its perfectly reforming its natural 25-30 degree slopes that make you wonder if you’re making progress at all, sooner or later you find the hidden little FEAR that has been denied, delayed and procrastinated being chased after the most. As David Essel puts it so eloquently into a simple phrase, the One Thing theory.
See, its not about achieving this magical Balance in life with its elusive opportunity to find beautiful symmetry all around you, its digging through the stories and redirecting FEAR’s till the root reason is found. Until then, we’re chasing our tails never fully realizing our own potential.
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