December 2, 2010
David addressed this issue in a great way earlier this year and it was a topic of discussion earlier.. I thought I’d share since I have learned that its not fear of failure but of success which I have struggled with for years…
FEAR OF FAILURE
Whenever I speak with or interview successful and exciting people, I always walk away with a sense of awe regarding their lack of fear in their pursuit of a worthy goal. Yet, I wonder if the fear of failure for most of us is the biggest obstacle in our attempt to live a life that is more fulfilling and joyful.
This fear of failing at any personal or professional endeavor can be so strong that we sit on the “sidelines” of life, watching other people playing their best game. The phrases “I wish I had their confidence . . . their life . . . their money . . . their relationships . . . their faith” continue to surface as we long for an existence that is full of energy and meaning. And yet, if we examine the road we’ve taken to get us to where we are today, I wonder if it is full of decisions that we’ve made to minimize the chance to fail rather than one in which we’ve tried to maximize the chances to be more successful. Do you see the immense difference here? People who are playing life “safe” are handcuffed, partially immobilized by the fear of how they may be judged by others if their quest doesn’t turn out the way they had hoped. On the other hand, those who are trying to maximize their lives are looking for opportunities to excite them, stretch them, make them show up and take the exciting chances that life has to offer. And please don’t confuse these people with blind risk takers. Quite the contrary. Many of these successful people are far from daredevils. Maybe their relationship is so strong because they chose someone based on an internal connection rather than choosing someone who others would approve of. They looked past race, color, religion, and chose someone they knew they could love at the deepest possible level.
Evaluate your life and determine today if your fear of failure is the one obstacle that you must learn to release so that the life of energy and joy you desire becomes reality.
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love, peace, david www.davidessel.com